All at Once

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It seems as if life finds it interesting to string you along without any change, excitement, or alteration month after month, and then enjoys pouring out its bucket of love or turmoil to see how you handle the windfall, adjust to the magnificent or magnanimous changes, or squirm and squeal with the overwhelming-ness of all of it, all at once. February was that kind of month. It all come pouring down, all of it wonderful, wonderful things, but all of it dished out in one big lump and the process of combing through it, making sense of it, and making a plan for it is entirely and utterly overwhelming:


On the second weekend of February, what I believed to be a random day trip to the sea turned into an engagement to the most wonderful man I have ever met and someone who has been my best friend since we met a little over four years ago. I can’t really express how excited I am to be with him and how surprised I am everyday that I can be loved by another human being who is not obligated by family ties to love me as much as he does. It was not nearly as glamorous as those things always are in your head. I brought my camera on the trip, thinking I was going to capture a few pictures of our day and never imagining what that trip would entail. Unfortunately, I didn’t happen to remember to put my memory card in. In the end though, I’m rather glad for that ironic slip of the memory because seconds after he asked, I sobbed, and the ring got slipped onto my finger, the strangest most annoying mist-rain got both of us drenched and completely un-fit for any capture of a lasting image. My hair turned into rivulets that quickly washed away whatever make-up remained from my proposal tears, and so the only thing to mark the moment is a really horrible phone-camera image and the memory in my head which still makes me laugh just thinking about it. None of that really matters though because to me marriage is the most incredible thing. The fact that two completely different people from two entirely separate lives and families could meet and discover that they love each other, and that that love is actually returned by the other person blows my mind. I am ready for it…I think…but at the same time as more and more people hear about the engagement and we discuss it, it feels entirely too grown up. If only the rest of life could pause while I wrap my head around this one I think I would be ok but that’s not how all at once works. No, no. All. At. Once. All of it. Everything happening RIGHT NOW.


In the midst of all of this, I am also finishing up the second quarter of my post-grad program. Whew. If going back to school was rough, it’s even more rough now. Typing papers and lesson-plans soon turn into fingers creeping up to my bookmarked “wedding” folder and greedily perusing my favorite wedding blogs (here and here). Next week is finals week though, and the promise of a spring break week after that with evenings free to plan and ponder is about the most wonderful thing I can think of at this moment.


Nothing could really top that second weekend of February, but discovering my featured article in Apronology on the shelves at Barnes and Noble was none the less quite a wonderful additional February blessing. It was a triumphant discovery and I’m still so proud and thankful for it. If you still haven’t checked it out, go to Barnes and Noble!

Are you beginning to understand all at once? I’m seriously worried about March and every other month of 2014 because when February pulls out all of its tricks, my goodness…Despite how overwhelming it is though, how some days I do squeal and squirm and would rather curl up deeper into my bed and have someone else call me when everything is planned out and I can emerge safely, I am so excited for every magnificent and magnanimous thing that is being revealed and the abundance of blessings this year has begun with.

-<3 A. 


vintage muse modern views blog launch revealedAnnouncing a blog launch is sort of like waking up Christmas morning and seeing all your gifts underneath the tree and then have your parents tell you it’s Christmas…it’s obvious, right? But somehow saying it, shouting it, telling everyone about it makes it that much more real. So, guess what? It’s BLOG LAUNCH DAY! You should have already noticed that, well, pretty much everything is different about VMMV because ladies (and a few occasional gentlemen)…I’ve upgraded! Like I said back when I shared my sneak peak about this makeover, if you type in the old blog ( you’ll be redirected to this new space  automatically ( which, if you’ll notice, is all mine! You will have to update your RSS feeds and/or your email subscription if you previously clicked “muse with me” and were a loyal follower (I love you guys btw!). Just subscribe again and you’ll be back to receiving email updates from the new URL.

The new space feels incredible: sort of like moving from a rental to a home, like shifting from a hobby to a real thing, like changing your mind from thinking,”I’ll try this,” to “I’m really going to do this” because it’s quite the commitment. In a nutshell, I guess I put a ring on VMMV because we aren’t just datin’ anymore, we’re in this. That’s definitely not to say I have a whole lot left I want to learn and do with the blog, but at last my foundation is ready to really begin building. If you notice as you’re perusing around the new blog, there’s still projects in the works so the construction has only begun! Also, something I should share is that VMMV has it’s own button now to spread around the bloggin’ world! Grab it at “about me and VMMV,” or click here.
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 It’s ten months to the day that I published my first post on the old blog (totally unplanned and completely ironic, yes?) and wowzers, I’ve learned A LOT in these ten months–about myself and about the whole blogging pursuit. I can’t thank Jordan enough for her design work and most of all her patience with me during this whole makeover process. In the beginning I was a little nervous approaching the whole thing and approaching a big league designer! I hadn’t been doing this very long and honestly was still in kindergarten preschool as far as the technical aspects of blogging. She’s been the sweetest person answering all my questions and concerns and helping me turn my trial-blog-run into a brand. You’re the best Jordan!

Thanks also to my readers for being patient as I’m making this switch, I’ll be learning to use this new space so hopefully no hiccups, but I apologize in advance if there are! I can’t wait to begin again, it’s the breath of freshness I needed and the room to grow and learn that I wanted.

– <3 A. 


Sneak Peak: Blog Makeover



I’ve been letting little snippets and hints out all summer about a blog makeover in the works and a few weeks ago you might remember me mentioning my blog designer and I were working on creating a cohesive palette for VMMV’s facelift. But perhaps I haven’t quite made clear just really how extensive this project is and just how completely EXCITED I am for the launch to be officially a week away!!! Nothing is going to change about how you access the blog, if you’re used to finding it a certain way, keep doin’ it! Everything will be rerouted to VMMV’s new home and I hope all of my darling readers will enjoy the new place as much as I will. I was only blogging for about 8 months when i contacted my blog designer. That’s pretty early in blog world to be jumping to the next level but my visions for what VMMV could be had already outgrown my own personal abilities so I needed to call in the troops or risk frustration and burnout by doing it all myself. And how thankful I am that I did call in at least one troop: Jordan Brantley, the brainchild of Create Like Crazy, my brilliant blog-designer, and such a fun partner to work with. How I stumbled across her I still can’t remember, but I have a feeling we were linked up for a reason especially considering after a little investigative work on my side (I was creepin’ on you Jordan!) I discovered we had the very same theory about where all our creativity comes from and what we should be using it for. She’s a kindred spirit that one.

She and I worked to create this moodboard as a way to get me to focus my ideas for the blog and make sure both of us were on the same page for my vision of what I wanted VMMV to be. Jordan had me find images and take pictures that represented what my visions are of the VMMV brand and put them into a few categories (style, design, color, texture, layout, vibe etc.). It was such a fun and slightly challenging project to pair concrete images to foggy design ideas! I sent her my photos and she hand-picked through them to create a finished moodboard with cohesion and direction.

When we first began brainstorming, I told her I didn’t want the vintage to feel like an antique store, more like an eclectic boutique. I still wanted a fresh, modern feel because that’s what VMMV is all about, integrating vintage inspirations into the modern world. She hit the balance just right…wait and see! The new blog will be so much easier for all of you to navigate, and will also be completely customized thanks very much to Jordan’s talents.  Like I said, the launch is officially set for August 8th so stay tuned! This moodboard is only a tiny peek into a beautiful new space.

– <3 A. 

That Redhead

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vmmv collageTwenty-one years ago that redhead was born and about a week and a half ago  we celebrated her birthday with lemon-drop martinis, a spaghetti dinner, and a bouquet of chocolate-dipped strawberries. I have so many years upon years of memories with her. Not very many people are blessed with friendships like these that last from the baby, childhood years into the strange, early adulthood years, and if they last that transition, then baby, there’s no killing this bond. Not only is she beautiful, successful, and hilarious, but she is also kind, thoughtful, and loving, and, dearest Reagan, we love you!

 – <3 A.